By poker_boy | 13 Comments
Last updated: Sunday, July 18, 2010 | 54 Views Tags: 3rd person, dad, dee, deviates, lady friends, mid 80s, mom, time today, tobacco pipe
Another poker question has come in this week. Let’s tackle it straight away:
Question: … w/ her lady friends. I’ve seen him get away w/ smoking indoors while Mom is gone but he’s careful to air the place out and when she comes home she doesn’t know. The only time he gets busted is when Mom deviates f/ the schedule. Who’s side should I be on?
Justin- It may be their house but I’m the 3rd person. Should it come down to a question of majority ruling, my opinion would matter.
Dee- Any time my parents fight (regardless of how trivial one may think it is) it affects all 3 of us.
handy- Yes, they are both mid 80s.
Patti- Mom doesn’t deviate f/ the schedule intentionally. The first time she came home early because the group was cancelled and she wasn’t notified in time. Today she came back immediately because she forgot something.
Mish- Yes it does and Mom says the same thing but it’s either too hot or too cold plus his fav chair is indoors.
Justin- It may be their house but I’m the 3rd person. Should it come down to a question of majority ruling, my opinion would matter.
Dee- Any time my parents fight (regardless of how trivial one may think it is) it affects all 3 of us.
handy- Yes, they are both mid 80s.
Patti- Mom doesn’t deviate f/ the schedule intentionally. The first time she came home early because the group was cancelled and she wasn’t notified in time. Today she came back immediately because she forgot something.
Mish- Yes it does and Mom says the same thing but it’s either too hot or too cold plus his fav chair is indoors.
Answer: If you have to choose sides and can’t be a little bit for both, I would take up for Dad. He lives there too, and smoking or not, he has a right to make choices in his life. Yeah, I know if she chooses not to, she doesn’t want his second hand smoke, but she married him and loves him for better or worse, right? Someday, she will look back on that old stinky pipe and wish she had never fussed at him over it.
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Mike Smith
July 18, 2010
Weel then, I guess you’ll be building on a man-cave with a fierce air filtration system for your old man to enjoy while he’s alive. When he’s gone, just think of all the fun you’ll have sitting in that room & thinking about him & your mom fighting over silly things like this.
July 18, 2010
Pipe tobacco does have a strong odor, but if he can clean it up normally when she’s away from home, I really don’t see what she’s upset about. Let Pop have a little fun. I forget how old you said he was, but I believe he’s in his 80’s? However, that’s just my opinion. I get the feeling that Mom has the final say in this household.
July 18, 2010
I doubt that your mom didn’t notice that your dad had been smoking his pipe while she was gone. She probably lets him think that he got away with it, and will deviate from her schedule just to keep you and your dad on your toes. Taking sides in that situation is something I would stay far away from. Are you prepared to side with you dad and hurt your mom, or vice versa?
July 18, 2010
I think choosing either parent is a mistake.
One of them will rightly feel betrayed.
Which is more important to you, expressing your opinion
or harmony in the home? I doubt that you can have both.
If I were in your position I’d find a way to bell the cat.
Regardless of what you do, Good luck.
July 18, 2010
They are both correct, Mom does not want the smell clinging to the curtains and furniture, and smoking is bad.
Dad has been smoking for some time and enjoys it, at this stage what’s the harm. If it were me I would say Mom you are absolutely correct, take Dad to the side and say better be more careful
July 18, 2010
He should have bought a good air cleaner long ago. Don’t take sides, you should know better by now.
I think your mother will deviate from the "schedule" more often now because he keeps getting caught.
July 18, 2010
blu, I would not take sides. It will only come back to bite you. If you are asked to take sides, explain to both that it is not your battle, and you prefer to stay out of it. If you are asked to ’side in,’ that is not being fair to you. Your parents set the boundaries on the smoking ban, so let them work it out. You will be glad you kept your opinions to yourself.
July 18, 2010
He is really to young to be smoking have a talk with him and explain what wil happen as he gets oder and another thing it would be a good time to talk to him about Drugs, Drinking and sex
At the age of 80 you need to keep a close eye on him he will soon be 90 and may get out of control
July 18, 2010
Oooh…I’d stay out of this one. If you side with mom…just remember that you’ll be home alone with dad the next time mom goes to play poker…and if you side with dad, just think about the tried and true saying: "If mamma aint happy, aint nobody happy!"….could get ugly! LOL
July 18, 2010
If your father is in his 80s he should have his pipe. He is a grown man, it is his house too. Leave him alone because it is not your place to tell dad what he can or cannot do in his own house. My dad enjoyed his pipe and if he were living with me in my house he could have his pipe,a pipe does not bother me. My beloved dad died over 25 years ago, I miss him still. Let dad enjoy his last years. Poppy
July 18, 2010
It is a known fact that passive smoking can cause cancer.
The UK has banned smoking indoors in public places because of the cost to the health service in the treatment of cancer sufferers.
I agree entirely with this law.
July 18, 2010
I would remain neutral.
Does the house have a back verandah or patio ? Why doesn’t he smoke out there ?
July 18, 2010
I always worry about the day I get caught lighting up, I’ve gotten away with it for so long.